Many people think if they show enough perfectionism, unrealistic expectations, emotional attachment, feelings of worry, anxiety, or guilt, they might look as if they care about something or someone. The reality is different. It shows your óvercare. Overcare is always draining your energy, either for yourself or for others. But who cares? Well, if you ever experienced the difference, you know that true care is motivating and inspiring. It conveys respect and support. It is also very important: it allows us to be resilient under pressure in life. That’s a Phoenix Frequency! This podcast is also a tribute to Denis Campbell, who died in 2021. ‘Show Me You Care’ was his last book and source of inspiration for this podcast. How do YOU show you care? In care or overcare? It is up to you if you know the difference after this podcast.
Surrendering to what seems ‘circumstantial’ isn’t the same as giving up. If you allow yourself to let go of the mental occupation, it is just a pathway to grow yourself. In this episode, Nienke shares how her trip to the other side of the world, against all odds, to be nurtured by a dear friend shifted her perspective. It is never the circumstance itself that seems like a blockage. It is your attitude about it that can make the difference. You can listen to the full episode here or on Spotify.
If you think just reading more and more materials or listening to more podcasts will bring you where you want to go, you might like learning. The tangible personal transformation is about doing and applying what you learned. And if nothing is shifting and you self-sabotage, look for the reason. That’s starting to look for Self-knowledge. Leave thinking a book only will make your inner shift, on the shelf. You can listen to the full episode here or on Spotify.
If you are sensitive to picking up what is happening around you, taking on the unpaid job of becoming the canary in the coal mine in human areas can become habitual. But what if the air is toxic? If you tumble over, you don’t get applause as the canary. In this podcast, Nienke shares how she added her Phoenix Frequency to shift from toxic to fresh breathing air and quit the job of being a sensor for other people’s responsibilities. Listen to the full Episode here or on Spotify.
Sophie grew up believing that she was a bad girl and no one could possibly love her! She was very good at proving herself right and left a trail of moderate destruction behind her! Very luckily, she met and married Steve, who caused her to start questioning this belief and ignited a curiosity in her about what was out there. What was life really about? Why were we here? What was the way out of suffering apart from the obvious escapist strategies which she employed in the past? Her quest led her down many interesting paths. Her life was studded with grief and loss, but her understanding that she could somehow learn from these experiences led her to accept whatever experiences arose fully. In this, we can create miracles. In accepting the fire in her house as a blessing (in deep, deep disguise), that is what it became.
A new beginning starts with the reality of transformation. It is an active process, not just a thought or desire for change in your world. Change can be redone, flipped back to the old perspective. Transformation is irreversible. While you transformed, it is a point of no return, like a phoenix. The only thing to do is to surround yourself with the fitting frequencies by choice. No one can do this for you. The beginning of all transformation starts within yourself. From there, you can step into your new bold reality you want to create and facilitate for the world. Starting with yourself, every day again. You can listen to the full episode here or on Spotify.
If we want to create a peaceful world, we must first be aware of how we are doing within ourselves. How peaceful is your self-talk? Is that as uplifting, encouraging and compassionate as you want to be for others or our world?
In this Xmas 2023 podcast, Nienke shares five simple steps to reframe yourself to a frequency serving peace rather than war within ourselves.
You may need some mediation between your head and your heart first; that’s fine. Use Nienke’s test to find out who is talking to you: your head or your heart. From there, you can take your response-ability.
For what frequencies do you want to be known for or be remembered for? The complainer, attention seeker, gossipper, naming, blaming and shaming, judgemental righteous bias fighter to protect yourself and keep your armour up at all times? Or someone who listens, authentically, who can pause and follow through based on resonse-ability, empathy based on compassion and real care? It’s up to you. Ceasefire starts within ourselves.
You can listen to the last episode of 2023 here or on Spotify.
When adversity kicks in, old patterns and behaviour will knock on your door instantly. You can ‘kill’ the discomfort with painkillers or be with it, like how lobsters grow. Although Nienke got advice from her professor at the university hospital LUMC to avoid becoming ill at all costs, to protect her ABI, but.. she got a heavy flu. Adversity! We all have a choice we can make: the highway to Pity City or take another junction. She shares how she handled that based on her Phoenix Frequencies in this podcast.
The Life Energy Institute played a significant role in the shift from ambitious drive to mission alignment. I convinced myself I would never do a ‘business course’ again. Striving to become important in the field of business building and entrepreneurship. Funnels, social media followers. I used to be in that world and even taught people how to get there. But I phoenixed and came out a different way. Even these podcasts are a result of what I found, not because of…. just because I have a cause. The Life Energy Institute cause you can find here. You can listen to the full episode 9 here or on Spotify.
What if you don’t need courage to be sparked by fear? What if you can act, what looks to the outside world as courageous but is natural for you because it is your choice? If you love the shift possibility so much, what seems courageous can become an effortless effort. You can add supporters to find that frequency, like curiosity, wisdom, and vulnerability. With the ‘good intention season’ coming up you can give it a shot, for the fun of a different perspective, an unexpected new perspective.
You can listen to the full episode 8 here or on Spotify.