“What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said? asked the boy.
‘Help,’ said the horse.
‘Asking for help isn’t giving up,’ said the horse. ‘It’s refusing to give up.”
― Charlie Mackesy, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse
How to be courageous enough to ask for help when it doesn’t feel safe or when life numbs you. Nienke shares about transference-countertransference and projection around asking for help as an obstacle for safety in the drama triangle. As a perceived Do it Yourself single woman, unclarity can create blurry boundaries and unwanted consequences. It’s OK to be not OK, and the bravest thing you can do is ask for help.
Because listening in a non-violent way creates space to become OK again without fixing but from receiving from a neutral perspective. Then, you can become courageously grateful for receiving support.